Bachelors v. Marriage


[ ]  A few years back, the New English Review published an article that showed that a disproportionate amount of the West’s most influential thinkers, innovators and artists were bachelors. Here’s a sampling from the list:

Ludwig van Beethoven
Johannes Brahms
Giacomo Casanova
Frederic Chopin
Nicolaus Copernicus
Eugène Delacroix
Rene Descartes
Gustave Flaubert
Galileo Galilei
Edward Gibbon
Vincent van Gogh

The personal lives of these great men varied wildly — Flaubert visited prostitutes, Galileo had children out of wedlock, and Isaac Newton probably died a virgin — but the one commonality between them is that they never tied the knot. (I specify marriage here because it ties a man down in a way that long-term relationships and the like don’t.  [ ]

Even the great men who DID marry didn’t live the white picket fence and 2.5 children in the suburbs lifestyle that CONservatives idealize. It’s axiomatic that writers, actors and musicians are always divorcing and remarrying because they’re incapable of sustaining normal relationships. Happy families in Hollywood are as rare as family values. Even scientists were known for their wanton ways. Richard Feynman was a notorious lothario and wrote an essay about how to pick up women at bars. Erwin Schrodinger had numerous affairs with the consent of his wife. Despite his popular image as a goofy geek, Albert Einstein was married twice and cheated on both of his wives numerous times. Very few of these men had a normal or socially approved love life.

There’s also scientific evidence proving that marriage is detrimental to a man’s drive and intellect:

But, regardless of age, the great minds who married virtually kissed goodbye to making any further glorious additions to their CV.

Within five years of making their nuptial vows, nearly a quarter of married scientists had made their last significant contribution to history’s hall of fame.

“Scientists rather quickly desist (from their careers) after their marriage, while unmarried scientists continue to make great scientific contributions later in their lives,” says Dr Kanazawa.

The energy of youth and the dampening effect of marriage, he adds, are also remarkably similar among geniuses in music, painting and writing, as well as in criminal activity.

[ ]  I don’t have a definitive answer to why marriage annihilates a man’s will to power, but I have a few theories.

1) Having a woman (and kids) around saps a man’s energy.

No matter who you are, having a girlfriend, wife, fuck-buddy or any relationship with a woman requires mental exertion.  [ ] 

2) The type of personality that would lead a man to great innovations also leads him to reject societal conventions.

This is the cum hoc ergo propter hoc explanation. The idea that anyone can perfectly compartmentalize their life is a fantasy — different portions will inevitably into the others. Someone who is inclined to question and deny conventional wisdom in one arena is likely to do so in another.  [ ]  

3) Married men are less inclined to take risks because their families need them to stick around.

When others depend on you to stay alive, you’re not going to gamble your career or life unnecessarily. But if you DON’T take risks, you’ll never break out of the mold that is mediocrity and obscurity. Men without wives and children can go where others can’t precisely because their lives are totally their own — only they will lose out if their adventures blow up in their faces.

While I don’t know why married men lose their mojo, the evidence is clear — only mediocre, average men should propose to a woman. If you have even a glimmer of brains or talent though, stay single and tell the finger-waggers to stuff it.  


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